“She thinks she is so cute”, “There’s just something about her I can’t stand”, “He’s always broke”, She’s actually really ugly in person and has a big nose” Do any of these words sound familiar? Does it seem like no matter what you do people just don’t like you? You are nice to them, you mind your own business but for some reason they still can’t stand you?
I’ll never forget in 4th grade there were a group of girls who hated me!! I remember they would call me “Oreo” ( a black girl who acts white). Which I think is complete nonsense. Don’t ever allow anyone to label you because of their ignorant perception of you. I realized these girls didn’t like me because I didn’t like the rapper Lil Bow Wow but loved the pop group NSYNC, crazy right? I also had a loud mouth and wasn’t afraid to speak my mind, which annoyed those group of girls.
At the time, I didn’t know how to handle the negative things people would say about me, so I began to act like them – gossiping, acting like a mean girl etc. Lord knows that didn’t last long because I later realized that being the mean girl wasn’t me. However, God allowed me to go through that for a reason. That situation allowed me to be stronger in elementary school as well as be myself- the nice, funny girl. Side note, I was also cute too LOL.
Now as an adult I have a whole new mindset on dealing with people who don’t like you. To the person in school who feels like they need to be mean to people because they are mean to you, stop it! Don’t allow the negativity of others to turn you into something you are not. Don’t try to fit in – you were made to stand out! I’ve learned that in life people will hate you, talk about you and say all kinds of mean things about you for no reason. It can be annoying but learn to live above it. There are some people who are so miserable and can’t stand the fact that you aren’t in their misery.
There are others who wish they were in your shoes and because they are not, they despise you. I find it funny that some people wish to be in other people’s shoes when they don’t even know what the other person is going through. I’ve learned that we can not worry about the opinions of others. If they don’t like you, so what? Who are you living for? Keep being you and don’t allow anyone to quench/dim your light!
We must love those who hate us. “But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!” Matthew 5:44 NLT. Jesus is the greatest example of this. People spat on Him, talked about Him and even crucified Him. He did not once turn to hate them but rather asked God to forgive them. I’ve realized that hurt people, hurt people and instead of getting angry, pray for them. Ask God to help them with whatever insecurities they are facing. People at your job may despise you because you do your work well, come on time and go above and beyond. Ignore their opinions – at the end of the day you are there to do your job and do it well. Let’s learn to stop wanting people to like us, just be yourself and the right people will love you for who you are. ❤️
Side Note: if you are someone who likes to gossip and say negative things about people, stop it! Learn to deal with the insecurities in your own life instead of trying to tear someone else down. Learn to love yourself and support others. Supporting others does not take away from your beauty, talents, or blessings.
The next time you overhear someone talking about you, don’t dwell on it. If they have a problem with you that’s their problem not yours. Continue to be that positive light to them. We cannot live to please others, we live to please God and Him alone. God has placed you where you are for a reason and no one can stop the blessings God has in store for you.
It can even be your own family members who despise you because they think you’re better off than them. God knows your heart and you can’t please everyone or try to convince them that you have a pure heart.
People will think what they want to think about you regardless, so stop worrying about their opinions. Instead of being concerned about what other people think -be concerned about what God thinks of you (and just an FYI -,He thinks highly of you). “How precious are your thoughts about me, O God They cannot be numbered!” Psalm 139:17 NLT
See the thing I love about God is, He doesn’t hold grudges or wrongs against us. Even if you’ve lied, gossiped about people, or done terrible things, God still loves you. Don’t let people define you based on your past. Move on and focus on the great things God has in store for you. So the next time someone says something hurtful about you, ignore them.
They are looking for a way to get to you, and when you ignore them, it shows that it doesn’t faze you which bothers them even more. Also, don’t forget to pray for them, regardless of how they may act on the outside, deep down they are very miserable and need a lot of love.
Let’s learn to be strong people who don’t give into negativity. Let’s continue to be bold and confident in who we are regardless of others opinions.
I know trying to deal with people who don’t like you can be difficult and a bit of a challenge but remember we can do all things through Christ!
Stay blessed 💕