“OMG, you guys are not together?” “I thought you guys were going to get married?” “I told you he was going to cheat on you.” Do any of these words sound familiar? Lord knows going through a break up takes a toll on you emotionally, physically and mentally. You feel embarrassed, upset, frustrated, sad, confused and the list goes on. You begin to wonder, what went wrong and how did I get here? How could this happen to me? Well I want to tell you that you will make it and things will get better. I’ve personally experienced a broken heart and it literally feels like your heart is shattered. I was so broken and really didn’t understand how this could happen to me, I thought I did everything right.
I was devastated, embarrassed, hurt, and felt betrayed. Although, the experience was painful and difficult, The Lord saw me through it and I’m here to tell you that, in all things give thanks. This was someone I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with ( I even had names picked out for our future kids.. I’m crazy like that )😅
Although this is what I wanted, it was not God’s will and at the time I didn’t understand. I thought “God you brought this person into my life why would you remove him?” I later realized that God brings people into our lives for a reason and a season. Sometimes it’s to teach us a lesson or build a character within us. I’ll be honest, I was giving this person all my attention and was putting God second. I wasn’t intentionally doing it, but I was so in love that nothing else mattered. I began to lose who I was as a person. God knew that I wasn’t the happiest in that relationship but I kept thinking “no this is the man for me God, we are going to make this relationship work by all means, plus I already told everyone I’m going to marry him so we can’t go back now.” See that’s the problem we try and give God orders about what we want, yet we forget God knows all things. You may think this is the best person for me but God sees 10, 15 years down the line and knows the person you are becoming is not going to match with the person you are with today.
Then you may wonder, “Well God why would you even bring this person into my life if you know this isn’t the one?” I believe that God allows us to go through life journeys, good/bad to help build a character within us, help us learn from our mistakes and to trust in Him. Also, we often times rush ahead of God then when things go wrong we blame Him.
At the time, I didn’t know how I was going to get over that break up, but I cried out to God and asked for all His help. I said “God, please give me the strength to go to work and to move forward with my life.” When I tell you that God moved like never before, He allowed me to re-focus and I began to focus on all the things God needed me to do. I started writing and focusing on all of my talents and gifts. I began to laugh again and God filled me with an inner peace and joy. I learned and grew so much during those years.
I learned who I was and the importance of forgiveness. I didn’t hold on to bitterness or resentment towards the person either. I overcame the opinions of people and when they would ask about him I would smile and say “he is great, we aren’t together anymore but I pray all is well with him” and I truly meant it. If that wasn’t the man for me why I am going to hold on to him? God is preparing some one wayyyyyyyy better. God also needed to work on me and I had a lot of growing and maturing to do and I’m still growing and learning. Now I do believe that if it’s God’s will for you guys to get back together then it will be ( don’t force it, allow God’s will to be done). Also, pray and ask God to remove the desire in your heart to want to be with that person or any anger or hurt you may have in your heart towards them. I know that’s hard, because you may want to get back together with that person but again, if that is not the person God has for you, you must be willing to let it go. If it is God’s will they will come back and with no added drama.
So to all the people struggling with a broken heart I want to tell you that I have been there and overcame it! I have learned to be so happy and genuinely content in who I am, and when God is ready to bring the right person He will at God’s perfect time. So please relax and don’t rush ahead of God. Take this time to focus on what God wants you to do and don’t lock yourself in a room and be depressed. Why are you even going to allow someone to have that kind of power over your life? Have fun, learn a new skill, travel, go back to school, or work on that business you’ve always wanted to start.
Shake it off and know that you are beautiful and that the right person will come at the right time. Forgive that person and trust that God can only fill that void so don’t rely on anyone or anything to make you happy or you will always be disappointed. I know getting over a broken heart can be hard and bit of a challenge but remember, we can do all things through Christ.
Stay Blessed ❤️