“Your nose is too big, eww hide those ugly feet, you’re just not pretty enough, your skin is too dark, your skin is too pale.” Do these words sound familiar? Have you ever felt like the “ugly duckling?” Maybe growing up you were never the prettiest, or you were overweight so you never felt happy with your body. We have all dealt with our fair share of insecurities however, its time to shake off those negative remarks and embrace our God given beauty.
Feeling like the ugly duckling is no fun! Society, friends and even family members can make you feel like you’re not good enough. It’s important to remember, that we shouldn’t feel insecure about who we are based on the opinions of others. God made us this way for a reason and He certainly does not make mistakes. Instead of beating yourself up about it, learn to embrace the things you cannot change. You might have been told you have a “big nose” or “your skin is too pale or too dark”. Learn to embrace your beautiful complexion and don’t allow that to bring you down. If we don’t learn to embrace who we are we cannot expect others to do so. We have to truly love ourselves, and trust me it comes with time. Maybe you’ve always been the “pretty girls” best friend or you’ve always been the “fat friend” don’t allow those labels to define you. We often hear hurtful words and it ends up sticking with us throughout our lives if we allow it; we then wonder why we can’t accept or embrace who we are. It doesn’t matter what anyone has said about you, learn to let go of those negative comments and let the real you shine. Don’t hide behind those negative words; learn to embrace all the imperfections that makes you unique. If you want to gain control over your health or body don’t do so because it will make someone else happy, do it because you want to make healthier changes for yourself – don’t live for people!
Maybe growing up guys were not interested in you because you had freckles, a lisp or because you weren’t “pretty enough” to their standards. See that’s the problem, we cannot allow others to define who we are and set a standard for our confidence and beauty. We walk around with hurts and pain from past comments that end up defining how we see ourselves. I’ll admit, I used to be very insecure about so many things like having bad skin, my weight, my looks, etc. However, I learned to embrace all the beautiful and unique things that make me different. I will never be like anyone else and they will never be like me. Society can tell you, you need a bigger butt and fuller lips in order to look beautiful or for a guy to pay attention to you. I’m here to tell you that if someone is only with you because you have a “beautiful shape or face” then they are with you for all the wrong superficial reasons.
See, we have to realize that it’s okay to make yourself look better by working out or taking care of yourself but we shouldn’t allow someone else’s perception of us to be the reason behind it. People will always have something to say about you, but you have to build the confidence from within. Look in the mirror and start to confess positive things about yourself. Learn to love your body and who you are regardless of others opinions. Remember, the same thing that someone else may not find as beautiful someone else will appreciate and love, but you must first love it about yourself.
I know trying to love yourself and feel beautiful in today’s society can be difficult and a bit of challenge but remember, we can do all things through Christ.
Stay blessed and beautiful💕