Is it me or does it look like everyone is engaged, planning their wedding or newly married? I’m all for marriage, I think it is a beautiful union between two souls that God has brought together. Marriage is very sacred and is not something to be taken lightly.
You can love and care for someone but that doesn’t necessarily mean you are meant to be with that person. Your life partner should be someone that is strong in the areas that you are weak. They should be someone that makes you better and essentially compliments you. God creates and brings people in our lives to help us. Now, if you don’t believe in marriage then you won’t fully understand what I’m saying.
The bible states that marriage is essentially coming together as one flesh. Matthew 19: 4-6 (NIV) states “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate”.
Becoming one flesh means that the two have become one. That does not mean that you become the same or that you both have to like the same things, or eat the same foods. No, what it means is that you two become one unit. When you make decisions about things or want to do something, you need to agree as one flesh. You are to build each other up, and to spiritually become one. Your husband or your wife should also be someone that helps/supports you in reaching your destiny in life. I truly believe that God places people in our lives to help us live out our God given destiny.
If the person you are dating now does not encourage or motivate you to live out your God given purpose, then you need to pray and ask God to reveal if this is the right person for you. You should also be able to confidently say I would be happy if my son had traits like my husband or if my daughter turned out like my wife ( keep in mind, no one is perfect). If you don’t feel confident saying that, you need to pray and ask God to reveal if this is the right person for you. You do not want to venture into something like marriage and not be 200% sure that this is the person you want to spend forever and everrrrr with!
Forever is a very long time and I’m not a fan of divorce, I pray against it. Every marriage is different so never judge anyone who has or is going through it. However, I do not intend to enter into marriage with the thoughts of “well if it doesn’t work out, we can just get a divorce”. I truly respect couples who have been married for like 40 years. I’m sure it was far from perfect, but they were able to see it through and make it work. That means they have seen it all and been through it all. You need to be able to say if my husband or wife gets sick I’ll still love them, if my spouse cheats on me ( God Forbid) I’ll be willing to seek help and really work it through. We have to understand that for better or for worse really means for better or for worse.
A lot of people are getting married and having lavish weddings ( some ending up in debt after ) but are not factoring in that the real marriage starts after that “Big Day”. That means dealing with the smelly farts, feet, breathe, bills, annoying family members, finances, possible sicknesses and so on. All the glitz and glamour fade, and the real marriage starts. You need to be honest with yourself and realize that marriage is a life long commitment. Ask yourself this, “can I really commit to everything with this person…the good and the bad?”
Like I said, I truly value marriage and believe that it is to be respected and cherished. Don’t marry someone because its “comfortable” or because you’ve reached a certain age and feel pressured. All those people pressuring you will not have to live with that person… you do! So before you say “I do” to a life long commitment, ask God to really lead and guide you to make the right decision.
You may be in a relationship now and may think this person is the “one”, but God sees ahead. He may be telling you I never said he/she is the one for you! You may be single reading this and may be feeling super anxious to finally be in a relationship or to be married and God is saying relax my child, be still and know that I am God. I will bring you the right person at the right time. The Lord needs to get our hearts, mind, and spirits right before we can give our all to someone else. Some of us also need to get right with the Lord first! We have such a desire
to be in a relationship or to marry, yet we can’t even spend time with God.
We must trust God that He will bless us with the best marriage and guide us through all the bumping roads ahead. Let’s aim to seek God first and He will bless us and take care of all our needs. I know trying to trust God about your relationship and future marriage can be difficult and a bit of a challenge but remember, we can do all things through Christ.