I’ll be honest, forgiveness was not a topic I had in mind to write about. I thought to myself, how can I give advice and tell others to forgive, while I’m currently struggling with unforgiveness. I thought, God, is this even a topic people would want to read about? I went back and forth trying to justify to God why I should write about something else, but you see that’s the amazing thing about God, when He asks you to do something He doesn’t ask for your approval. He said Juliet, this is the topic I want you to write about, and I God knows why. He also reminded me that the advice that I’m giving to others is from Him and not myself (always remember to take yourself out of the way and allow God to use you). So I pray as you read this post, any unforgiveness, any hurt, or pain that anyone has caused you, will be healed in Jesus name. I pray that you will learn to forgive yourself and others just as Christ forgives us.
Now unless you do not have any emotions or feelings we can all agree that we have all been hurt before. I’m talking about being seriously hurt, to the point you probably wanted to kill that person or cause them to feel just as terrible as they made you feel. Just imagine the love of your life finally proposed to you, it is two months to the wedding and you catch with your own two eyes your soon to be husband and your maid of honor having an affair… ouch! Now this has never happened to me and I pray against that in Jesus name but I do know a few people who have been through situations like this. Or maybe you grew up in a very abusive home and as a result have so much pain and hurt that till this day, still affect you. How can you forgive someone who has caused you so much pain? How can you forgive people who don’t even see what they have done as wrong? Forgiving others is an extremely hard thing to do, the pain still hurts, and even when you try to forget about it, you just can’t.
Well, I want to let you know, that you can forgive them, you can forgive that teacher, that sibling, the parent, that fiancé, or that friend who hurt you! As hard as it may be we have to learn to allow God to help us forgive them. Trying to forgive someone in our own strength will not work because, one, we are human, we would naturally not want to forgive them, and two, we may think we’ve forgiven them and then something will pop up and get us angry all over again. We cannot forgive in our own human flesh, the flesh is weak, we need a higher force to help us deal with these struggles. The only power that can help us forgive is God. We need to run to God and ask Him to help us forgive others just as He forgives us every day. That doesn’t mean the pain will go away overnight or that you will all of sudden forget about what happened, but it will bring you peace. There is a certain level of peace and joy that God brings that is beyond description. He can heal and transform your pain and turn it into joy. We have to bear in mind that holding on to grudges or being upset about the situation cannot change the fact that it happened. We must remember that vengeance is the Lord’s; God will fight for us, Exodus 14:14 reminds us that “The Lord shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace”. You may wonder well if God is fighting for us why would He even allow me to go through this situation. God knows why we all go through certain situations, we should never be angry with God but rather we should ask Him to help us get through it. Isaiah 41:10 is a great verse that tells us “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand”.
We do not have to go around being angry and saying “just wait, I’m going to make that person regret ever hurting me”. No, leave it for God to do, He will deal with that person accordingly, all we need to do is ask God to help us forgive. When you forgive you are sowing a precious seed, you might not see it now but one day you might need that same amount of forgiveness. It’s also important that we ask God to forgive us as well. Maybe you’re the one who has hurt someone so bad and feel terrible about it, remember none of us are perfect, we all make dumb mistakes. Some of those mistakes will cost us a lot, but that is why God is so awesome. He can fix and repair any broken situation or relationship. You do not have to walk around feeling down and depressed about a mistake you’ve made, ask God to forgive and heal you, it doesn’t matter how bad it is. The Lord is our father, we cannot run from Him, He knows all things and He gives us the opportunity everyday to come to Him for forgiveness “For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more” Hebrews 8:12 . We should never allow someone else’s mistakes to steal our joy, or our happiness. Whoever has hurt you or is causing you to hold on to unforgiveness I want you to say this simple prayer and allow the spirit of the Lord to bring you peace and rest.
Prayer for Forgiveness:
Lord, just as You so generously forgive me, help me also to forgive others and not keep any form of hate, anger, or revenge within my mind. Today I choose to forgive, heal my wounded heart, teach me how to love unconditionally and extend your mercy to both them and me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
As you have prayed this prayer you are free! You do not have to live in pain or carry that burden any longer; ask God to help you daily with forgiveness and may you always walk in love and in peace.
Forgiving those who have hurt us, is extremely difficult and can be a big challenge, but remember we can do all things through Christ!